The seeds of our discontent and self-image are sowed within us as children. They grow with our responses to our circumstances, the messages we internalize, and the choices we make. Our reactive natures and behavior develop; the well of our emotions deepens until all seem inextricably intertwined. They become the lenses through which we experience
You struggle against the entropy that wants you to stay put. You feel the weight of expectations. Your hope is not always intact, and sometimes you lose sight of it altogether. A lot of your time is eaten up by trivia or unavoidable responsibilities. Survival, the common struggle of all living beings, brings out the
An old saying in my household is that you can be “right” or you can love somebody. Translation: You can seek dominion (in a disagreement) or you can agree to disagree, and move on. You can place a higher value on getting along and honoring the other person’s position than on being “the winner.” If
The tiniest inkling of our higher selves can awaken great courage and spawn action. A young woman's courage to claim her own independent life is beautiful and inspiring to witness. From childhood, girls all over the world are conditioned to be the caretakers, to acquiesce to the wishes of men and to put themselves last.
In his eloquent speech on October 19th, Ban Ki-moon, Secretary General of the U.N., exhorted the Palestinian and Israeli peoples to step back from the abyss and get serious about finding a political solution to their deteriorating conflict. He acknowledged everyone’s frustrations and anger about the settlements and the occupation; that their hopes for peace
People around me were becoming ill and dying, although I was still a young woman. I attended a church in San Francisco during the 1980’s and watched as fellow parishioners became gaunt, were marked by the red blooms of Kaposi’s sarcoma, and seemed to age decades in a matter of months. The AIDS epidemic ravaged
I asked a close friend yesterday what advice she would give a young woman who was just starting out. This prompted a discussion between us about the problem of self esteem many women face at various stages of their lives. My friend grew pensive and said, “Think about the qualities you admire in people. Cultivate
Now that my children are self sufficient and well established in their careers, a new chapter has begun in my life. I'm in a place I was hoping to find, after much work: happiness in ordinary daily life. The road that led me here was not easy, but necessity, trial and error were good teachers.
Women struggle to keep their families together at all costs, often alone. Saddled with the conditioning and baggage of the past, our abilities for managing crises are often less than ideal. Our preoccupations with the future often blind us to the facts of the here and now. Like all people, we tend to see what